Coaches - Offer or No offer

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Looking for an opnion or insight from personal experience.

Have a player who I would like to make an offer to..... but the parent is, simply put a "problem"
Don't want to punish the player BUT not sure it is worth dealing with the parent for another year.
How many nasty grams, emails and phone calls should a coach be willing to deal with.
Mind you the player is not a superstar but a good kid with a lot pf potential.

Personally not sure why they would even consider returning since the parent supposedly had many issues and questioned my decisions continually.

 

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You are offering a spot to not only the player but the parents. If the parent is a cancer I would tread lightly. Personaly if I had other options I would not make the offer. IMHO

 

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Time to part ways. Sometimes it's just not the right fit for the coach, team, or family. We picked up a player from another team mid season. I always thought highly of the other team but the parents of the departing player had issues with the coaches. At the same time I think the coach was glad to cut her loose. She came to us and we had no problems whatsoever. Wrong fit, right fit. Nobody's fault - it happens.

 

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Time to part ways. Sometimes it's just not the right fit for the coach, team, or family. We picked up a player from another team mid season. I always thought highly of the other team but the parents of the departing player had issues with the coaches. At the same time I think the coach was glad to cut her loose. She came to us and we had no problems whatsoever. Wrong fit, right fit. Nobody's fault - it happens.

Agree

 

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Agree, probably doesn't make sense to offer her ... the one option though would be to call the parents and say look, I like your daughter, but my impression from this past year is that you did not like my coaching, so I am assuming you really don't want her to play for me ... perhaps that could backfire, but perhaps it could create a discussion that would work out the issues also ...

 

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Hmmmm.... is it a position that my daughter could potentially get? Because I am an awesome parent! I say dump the psycho parent and give a good one a try. Perhaps that's the only way the "problem" parent will learn to back off.

 

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Walk away, there are a lot of good players. Don't bash the parents to anybody else, everybody deserves a 2nd chance a fresh start with maybe a lesson learned might be all they need.

 

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No way. I wouldn't entertain the thought of doing it all over again.

Had they been a quiet parent, yet you somehow got the impression that they were unhappy, then maybe it's up to you to initiate a conversation and see if the two of you can come to terms, or if a 2nd chance is warranted. Both sides should be able to speak freely and with transparency. Honesty is the best policy.

However, it sounds like they've communicated to you on multiple occasions, and the problem still exists. Time to find a new environment. For you, your team, and those parents.

It's unfortunate for the kid, but you won't be able to get through to her anyway.

 

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Cut.

 

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What if the parent is right ? What if this one parent had input from half the team and then voiced their opinion which you think is only their opinion ? I've seen plenty of coaches all of whom are good at one thing or another, but I have yet to see a coach who knows everything. The best way to handle it would be to just talk to them, sometimes you don't even need to do anything but listen.

 

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Cut.

Exactly...the pay is so good...you deserve better. Neeeeeever worth it IMO!

 

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I would never make the offer. Bad parents will ruin your year and take the fun out of it for every one. Definately not worth it, I'd pass.

 

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What if the parent is right ? What if this one parent had input from half the team and then voiced their opinion which you think is only their opinion ? I've seen plenty of coaches all of whom are good at one thing or another, but I have yet to see a coach who knows everything. The best way to handle it would be to just talk to them, sometimes you don't even need to do anything but listen.

I would imagine if the parent was right or was the voice for all the other parents, those parents would be looking somewhere else to play.

Len

 

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It sounds like you may appreciate punishing yourself....unless that type of behavior is acceptable to you and you don't mind dealing with it, I would cut. Honestly, even if the girl was an amazing player, how much time do you have in your day to deal with a parent that constantly gives you grief?

 

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I've walked away from several good athletes just because one or both parents were a problem. Probably cost me a win or two down the road somewhere, but I've never regretted it.

 

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One bad apple spoiled the bunch!

 

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Run Forrest!!!! RUN!!!!!!

 

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Looking for an opnion or insight from personal experience.

Have a player who I would like to make an offer to..... but the parent is, simply put a "problem"
Don't want to punish the player BUT not sure it is worth dealing with the parent for another year.
How many nasty grams, emails and phone calls should a coach be willing to deal with.
Mind you the player is not a superstar but a good kid with a lot pf potential.

Personally not sure why they would even consider returning since the parent supposedly had many issues and questioned my decisions continually.

What age group?

Does your team have a cool-off policy where parents have to wait 24-72 hours after games before communicating with the coach? If not, institute one and stick to it.

I'm guessing the DD is the one that wants to return. Does she exhibit any negative behavior? If so, don't offer.

Do the parent(s) exhibit any negative behavior amongst the other parents? If so, don't offer.

 

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It's probably a moot point. I doubt very much that the parent who thinks you are less than adequate to coach his/her daughter would want that child to play for you again. You're likely suffering from an increasingly common disease. I call it the, "I wear some $200 sunglasses on top of my ball cap so I think I'm a good coach and everyone wants to play for me" syndrome. She probably tried out for another team and secured a spot two weeks ago. It could be your philosophy and that of the new coach are different. You might be more interested in developing players and being fair to everyone at the expense of winning ballgames. The new coach might be interested only in putting the best team on the field at all times. Those are just examples. A friend of mine was constantly upset a couple of seasons ago that his daughter's coach refused to remove certain players from certain positions even though they had proved game after game that they couldn't do the job. Obviously, this coach did not want to upset those players' parents-- at the expense of the rest of the team. By mid-season, my friend had already quietly committed his daughter to a new team for the next season. A week after the season was over, the old coach sent an email to the player telling her that she wasn't being offered a spot for the next season because her father's philosophy clashed with his. She and her father had a good laugh over that. They'd both been biting the bullet for many weeks, intent upon finishing the season with class and dignity. The daughter, by the way, had a terrific season with her new team-- and was begged to return for another. Moral: If a parent has a problem with your performance as a coach, it's quite possible that you aren't as good as you think you are. Put your ego aside and deal with it. Don't just blame the parent.

 

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Run and not just for yourself but also the other families who would like an enjoyable year.