Daughter doesn't want to play school ball so.......

[bigdaddyo1972]

Wouldn't she have previously known most of the sophomores? She was a freshmen in a D2 school system? That's not a huge community. Was she new to the school? The first year of any new school is going to be a challenging year. I hope she continues playing, I doubt she will regret it. Good luck!

My daughter has been at the same school all of her life just never ran in the same circles as the sophomores I guess. The school she goes to is very good school academically but tends to be very clicky as I'm sure most schools are. My hope is that she changes her mind because I think she'll regret it later.

 

[lewam3]

My daughter has been at the same school all of her life just never ran in the same circles as the sophomores I guess. The school she goes to is very good school academically but tends to be very clicky as I'm sure most schools are. My hope is that she changes her mind because I think she'll regret it later.

Does DD have the potential and drive to be a standout pitcher? A pitcher who wins games based on her ability, performance, and grit quickly becomes the most popular gal on the team. If you feel deep down that she does not have the drive and potential to be a standout, then I would not force the issue, and let her find her own way through the high school maze. I am rooting for her either way!

 

[Hilliarddad3]

I may have missed it in my readings of the posts, but also didn't see anything on a positive attitude, you can have the crappiest coach, meanest girls and a crappy record as a team, but her personal attitude will also help her in the long run in and out of the game. If the coach needs something done, raise that hand first, do things with a smile, no matter how difficult that could be at the time. Don't let anyone tear her down as she is her strongest believer and that can go off kilter in a blink, you her parents are the next strongest support throughout life and belief in herself alone with a positive attitude will be seen and noticed for longer than she'll ever play... Have her take a break for about 8 weeks, she will get the itch and work harder than you'll ever know, if after next season it's the same, well, there is life after softball.......
Good luck with this....

 

[Sweetpea]

Obviously I don't know the "specifics" of your daughters high school experience but I can tell you that if she loves softball that much she will ultimately regret not playing school ball.

My daughter plays college softball. She played on some of the best travel softball teams in Ohio and had a blast doing it. Her high school experience was not nearly as "fun" for her and we dealt with the politics and pettiness that people post about on this site all year long.

When it all came to an end and her high school team was eliminated from the tournament she cried like a baby. Her teammates and friends cried like babies. When they get together in the summers they still talk about high school softball (Not to the level that us 45 year old men still talk about our high school football days but they still talk about it!). When she played her last travel game she packed up her bat bag, said thanks to her coaches, gave me a hug and said let's go eat, I'm hungry...

My point is that there is something special about high school sports that you just don't get out of summer travel ball! Hopefully she changes her mind and gives it another try.

 

[mike_dyer]

I may have missed it in my readings of the posts, but also didn't see anything on a positive attitude, you can have the crappiest coach, meanest girls and a crappy record as a team, but her personal attitude will also help her in the long run in and out of the game. If the coach needs something done, raise that hand first, do things with a smile, no matter how difficult that could be at the time. Don't let anyone tear her down as she is her strongest believer and that can go off kilter in a blink, you her parents are the next strongest support throughout life and belief in herself alone with a positive attitude will be seen and noticed for longer than she'll ever play... Have her take a break for about 8 weeks, she will get the itch and work harder than you'll ever know, if after next season it's the same, well, there is life after softball.......
Good luck with this....

I've had some disagreements with you, and I think you hate me. But i think you, me, and "cobb of fury" are the last best hope for humanity.

We need to get together, ASAP.

 

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[Balldiddly]

Here's another perspective: High school ball is not travel ball. Our DD had a bit of trouble with this one. Her expectations were not being met because she expected what she knows, and high school ball is different, not bad- different. Once she was able to grasp this concept, things went much better. The summer team lives and breathes each other, the high school team is more divided, but all there for a common goal. The summer team is on a time limit most of the time, the high school team looks at innings. The summer team are all the same age, the high school team spans four years. I am sure there are others. The reality is that coming out of a comfort zone can create growth, if approached correctly. At the end of the day, it's about time with a ball or bat in your hand. Missing an entire high school season while the rest of your travel team is touching a ball daily and playing games, will take a lot of work to overcome. These decisions are never easy...

 

[CoachB25]

As pointed out several times, high school and TB are two different animals. I think for many, the freshman year can be so tough. There are so many reasons but to be sure, the potential of age and skill differences make the transition to HS ball tough. Then, there are the differences between those players in TB that spend so much time together and develop those strong friendships as opposed to some HS teams who openly promote their TB teams in practice by wearing those various t-shirts.

I don't believe any player should be forced to play any sport. Sit down with your dd and make a list of the pro and cons without the emotion of arguing as to whether she should play. I know for many, things like local newspaper coverage, the chance to win the various awards and the opportunity to represent your school and community are very important to some. Naturally, the negatives can be the coach, teammates, time away from home and studies while school is in session, ... I hope that you and your dd come to some agreement that makes her happy. Good luck!

 

[Hilliarddad3]

I've had some disagreements with you, and I think you hate me. But i think you, me, and "cobb of fury" are the last best hope for humanity.

We need to get together, ASAP.

Ha Mike, the only thing I hate is Broccoli,,,,, this is just a bulletin board of ideas and comments by all us idiots, no grudges ever for me, life's too short for nonsense...if one parent or kid can be helped by an idea, it's a win for everyone. At the end of the day it's a game kids and young women play, they won't play forever and hopefully will turn into great moms who pass the love of the game onto future generations.......

 

[bigdaddyo1972]

Does DD have the potential and drive to be a standout pitcher? A pitcher who wins games based on her ability, performance, and grit quickly becomes the most popular gal on the team. If you feel deep down that she does not have the drive and potential to be a standout, then I would not force the issue, and let her find her own way through the high school maze. I am rooting for her either way!

I believe my daughter could have the potential to do anything she puts her mind too. I've always told her I believe "A focused and committed (name) could accomplish anything she wants to do"

 

[bigdaddyo1972]

I may have missed it in my readings of the posts, but also didn't see anything on a positive attitude, you can have the crappiest coach, meanest girls and a crappy record as a team, but her personal attitude will also help her in the long run in and out of the game. If the coach needs something done, raise that hand first, do things with a smile, no matter how difficult that could be at the time. Don't let anyone tear her down as she is her strongest believer and that can go off kilter in a blink, you her parents are the next strongest support throughout life and belief in herself alone with a positive attitude will be seen and noticed for longer than she'll ever play... Have her take a break for about 8 weeks, she will get the itch and work harder than you'll ever know, if after next season it's the same, well, there is life after softball.......
Good luck with this....

She is the player that every coach would want on their team. She was raised/taught that you do what ever the coach tells you to you do. she is not an outfielder but if coach told her to go play right field she would do it no questions asked, she would to herself disagree with the call but she would do it. And then me and her would "talk" about it later after the game. She's the type of player that even if she doesn't care for one of her team mates when they are up to bat she' cheering them on because it benefits the team.

Sorry a little bragging there.