Johnnies said:
I always thought the best rewards was the approval of my coach.
The worst punishment is when I thought I disappointed him.
Isn't that the way it should be?
I feel really bad when I make an error and don[ch8217]t want to disappoint the coach or team, I feel like I let them down. I know when I mess up and get angry at myself. So if it looks like I have an attitude..I probably do! lol..just know that it is not aimed at anyone but myself. We get just as frustrated if not more than our coaches.
LADY_KNIGHTS said:
With my 16U team, when we win we get ice cream ;D, ?and when we lose............we get ice cream.
That[ch8217]s the way it should be!
First, girls are different than boys! Thank goodness! Punishing me for an error does NOT help me. Running laps only helps keep my legs strong for other sports..lol ?I actually like to run so that is not a punishment to me. My high school coach (assistant) threatened me with sit ups for every time that I popped out. How about just showing me what I am doing wrong to help me not pop out? I do not think he knew how to help me. Please do not scream and cuss at me if I make an error. You would not like to be treated that way and neither do I. It only makes me feel worse than I already do and it is embarrassing and makes you look bad as well as the team. Some girls will get angry and play better but not all of us.
One coach on here says that the coaches should be cut some slack. Well what about us players? WE ARE GIRLS! We have mood swings. We have No control over that. Boys don[ch8217]t. At least my brothers don[ch8217]t! One mood=mean to me all the time! Lol Maybe I have some things on my mind when I come to a game, like a relative in the family that is dying, maybe my parents are fighting, and maybe I am worried about a school project or what grade I got on my last test. Maybe I am wondering where my boyfriend is, maybe a girl on the team has said something really bad to me cause she has an attitude and is in a MOOD! lol Maybe I am at the age where I am trying to figure out what I want to major in in college or what college I should go to. Maybe I have a girlfriend who is in trouble and needs her her only girlfriend with her now.
I am not trying to make excuses for anything and I know adults as well as us girls have all kinds of serious things going on in their lives all the time. I know when I hit the field running that I need to be focused and forget all the other stuff. Sometimes that is easier said than done. I am still a teenager and I know I have a lot to learn and a long way to go. Maybe I don[ch8217]t handle things as well yet, but I am growing and learning every day. I play because it is FUN to play. I love the tough competition. It only makes me a better player. Sure, I am going to mess up but when I watch MLB, they are adult men getting paid lots of money and they mess up too.
Please try to see things thru my eyes, whether I am 11, 12, 13, 14. 15. or 16 years old. I am doing my best out there. I would not be there if this was not the game that I love with my heart and soul! I play year round and playing late on Sunday is my goal even if it is in 90 degree heat, playing 5-6 games to come back out of the losers bracket, covered in dust and dirt, sweaty and smelly, bruised, banged up and sometimes even broken. It is all worth it! Just cut me some slack because I am here to play because I love it. TEACH me the game, please don[ch8217]t punish me. I am doing the best I can!
JoeA1010 said:
I agree with everything said here, but let me ask one question: ?Why do the boys who grew up playing sandlot ball 30-40 years ago understand the game far better than the girls who have been receiving adult coaching the last 15 years? ?Certainly none of the other boys was the least bit worried about each other's feelings when one of them made a mistake.
My grandpa told me before he passed away that I understood the game and played ALMOST as good as he did! Lol
I also want to thank all the coaches who have coached me (except for 2 lol) over the last 11 years. I know you are trying to do your best and so am I.