This is a difficult process and unfortunately does not always work out. There are some things you can do as listed above but none of them will ensure that you will end up in the best situation. The best advice is do your homework and do not get pressured into joining a team you are not comfortable with. As you can see from the tryout page currently standing at 634 tryouts starting this weekend through the entire month of August. Start looking into teams that you are interested in. Unfortunately you have missed the end of the current season. Watching teams play, watching how the coaching staff works, parents behave, players work together, etc is a great way to start making a list. Ask parents of travel players for input but understand you will only get their feeling on how it was with their daughter. In NEO you have lots of options. Organizations with a history are a good place to start but there are always differences between teams in the same organization. When you go to tryouts watch how they are done. A good team will have an organized tryout. How many girls are at the tryout? Teams with good reputations get a lot of girls at tryouts. If you daughter is at a tryout of 5 girls, probably not a good situation. Ask the coaches questions. What positions are they looking for, how many spots are they looking to fill, do they have pitching (you will see later on how many teams are looking for pitching), what types of tournaments will they play in, are they ok with your daughter playing other sports, do they travel alot. And after you go through the process, do what you feel is right for your daughter and hope for the best. Fortunately there are a lot of great organizations and teams out there, hope you find one that works for your DD.