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Well the unthinkable has happened. My DD doesn?t want to play travel ball anymore. I have never pushed her, she was always been self motivated. She would tell me how much she loved to play. I gave her a choice one Christmas between a new computer or catchers gear and she wanted softball gear. She has loved it on her own. She even wants to take down pictures on the wall now. Now I am left with memories and I?m totally confused. She wants to play High School only. She is only a freshman and I don?t see how she can be ready for High School without putting time in the summer. Has this ever happen to anybody out there? What do I do? Mom is glad she isn't playing anymore she wants her to enjoy other things. Can not knock that.
Hurting Dad
Our FaultlessTeam is still together this is just a one player thing.

 

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Well it hasn't happened to me yet.My DD is only 13,but when it does my wife will be pretty happy.She says that when the DD is done it's time for me to find a slow pitch softball league of my own.

 

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I say go for the reverse psychology and say "ok honey". Hope that she has a good spring and decides that she will miss it. She has been in it long enough to know what it’s all about. You won’t be able to force it on her anyway.

Good luck

 

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Well it hasn't happened to me yet.My DD is only 13,but when it does my wife will be pretty happy.She says that when the DD is done it's time for me to find a slow pitch softball league of my own.

My DD is only 13 too. I have heard the horror stories of DD's who up and decide to quit fastpitch when they still have years left. Surely my darling wouldn't do that to me!

 

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I have this conversation with my DD on occasion. I will say this, we ask our DD what she will do with her spare time, and with " I don't know" as a response, we say no way. We want her active and learning "something". Hopefully she'll bounce back. As a parent you want to keep them happy and this should be a slam dunk response but NEVER is!!

I see your golf game improving, getting more time fishing/hunting, or just hanging out with your wife and kids.

 

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I have experienced this on a couple of instances. My DD is now a jumior. Sometimes everyone needs to step back and see things from her perspective. I told my DD I did not want to pressure her, however, SHE needed to square away her thoughts and process what the end result would be. Ultimately, if she does not want it, she will not put forth the effort. There was pressure from outside influences as she entered high school. All year round the pitching lessons, hitting lessons, indoor tournaments, high school ball, travel, etc... No time to be a kid! Lots of conflicts as you can see. Give her a little time to sort things out. If at the end of the day she doesn't want it anymore, SUPPORT her because things can change once the ITCH returns. JMHO. As a footnote, my DD STILL plays, so there is always hope.

 

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did she recently get a new boyfriend?

 

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lol...Ringer... that's usually the case.... or s o c c e r

 

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Jus tell her now that she has more free time you will stock it up with summer school classes and chores around the house. Maybe she can aslo get a job at kroger or something like that. Tell her that you can now take her to nitting and painting classes. Try to make her summer sound boring and full of stupid stuff.

 

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I don't know what High School Ball is like where you live but in our school district you can play for the high school and not play any other time....travel, fall etc. It's just not that competitive. My DD last year as a freshman told me she was quitting basketball - which she had played year - round since she was in 3rd grade....travel, rec, school - same as softball. I asked her not to quit and then i asked her why. Her answer was that she could certainly make the high school team, practice and hour every day and play on the team but that she would rather take 4 honors courses, focus on her school work and concentrate more on pitching lessons and off-season softball workouts. She simply didn't want to invest the time anymore - it was no longer a priority. How could i argue with that? Maybe it's the same with your DD.

 

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Jus tell her now that she has more free time you will stock it up with summer school classes and chores around the house. Maybe she can aslo get a job at kroger or something like that. Tell her that you can now take her to nitting and painting classes. Try to make her summer sound boring and full of stupid stuff.

...NOTE TO SELF, use this information for when my DD doesn't want to wake up for the 8am game. The J-O-B could require waking up for 6:30am hamburger prep work or 3am at Dunkin' Donuts. Luv it!!

 

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Blue, you may need to prepare the other "12 Step Program" for them...

 

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My dd is looking at it another way, drop HS ball and just play travel.

 

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If she really loves it, she will be back. She is probably just experience a little burn-out where she feels she is missing out on other things, hanging with her friends, boyfriends, or just getting to sleep in on the weekends. Once spring and summer starts and all her softball friends are together and the games and traveling starts, she will miss it. Everyone gets tired of it sometimes, but for the die-hards, that only lasts a week or 2until you get bored.

 

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Usually it is outside influences that will affect her decision. She is a freshman, and now they are hearing about all the "parties" that are missing, or football games on Friday night and the bone-fire afterwards. Ride the wave as it will usually pass. I would do the same as with the job situation, but I would not give up the pitching lessons totally, maybe cut down to a couple of times a month. If she is interested in sports, have her switch to something. Bottom line, keep them active in something.

 

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Yes ,she has a boyfriend. Also she plays High School for a 5 time State Champions School very completitive.

 

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DON'T guilt her into playing at this point. You will make yourself and others miserable. If you have every had a player on the team that didn't want to be there you know what I mean. Keep the door open, she may still want to play, just not every week. There always seem to be teams looking for pick-up players. You can certainly require her to do something else constructive with her spare time. As much as we all love our DD's and the game of softball (hopefully in that order) there are other things out there.

 

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I don't know if I missed this, but why does she no longer want to play travel?

 

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We just experienced this in our Family, My sixteen year old neice decided she was done with travel but would continue with High School ball. My brother is devistated! He coached her in rech. I believe since she was nine or ten years old and is now coaching his 12 year olds travel team. Just a few years ago she was telling all of us how much she loved it and wanted to play in College someday. She's a lefty pitcher, she used to tell me she was going to be the next Jenny F. and that she was going to buy me a car with all that $$$ she was going to make.lol

I guess it's a wake up call for me, my daughter is going on her 4th year of travel and she still loves it and so do I. If she just came home one day and said she was done it would probably push me into a tailspin too. I guess the bottom line is if they don't love the game anymore, if they can't dedicate themselves to all the time and hard work that it takes to compete in travel then there's really no sence in forcing them to play, however I have told my daughter that if that time comes for her that she will have to get a little job to keep herself busy and she wants nothing to do with a job so I think we'll be ok for awhile atleast lol

 

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Uber Jones
Mom said she want to enjoy summer doing other things.
Other then that I'm clueless