If you force the young kid to hit her spots she will slow her arm down and blow any form she may be learning just to make that pitch. This won't matter to her 10U coach because he won the game and collected a trophy.
If throwing strikes is the most important thing to a coach, they will never develop a dominating pitcher. If the coach is harping on location, k's and avoiding walks the young pitchers will never progress it is that simple. She will pitch in fear trying not to make a mistake.
You have to define what this is all about. If you want your dd to be a successful high school pitcher and 4 year college pitcher then never make location or strikes the goal. They are the result of a lot of bad pitches. Focus on the making the process of continuing improvement, throwing each pitch harder, each break better, each batter an opportunity and she will still be in the circle as a 22 year old. Walks and bad pitches are part of her learning curve, get used to it.