Lots of excellent comments on this matter, most of which are advising Mercedes to stick it out. My opinion on this matter will follow along those lines. There are many things I want to teach my own DD, and let's face it parents....we got involved either as parents or as coaches because our DD's showed an interest in the game, right? The lesson I want my own daughter to learn follow the same principles I instill in the teams I coach. Desire, dedication, determination, commitment, respect for themselves, their teammates, their coaches, opponents and umpires. Last but not least, I will never forget that I coach young girls and they chose to play this game years ago for 1 reason, and 1 reason alone...to have fun. Were they thinking about throwing drop curves with 2 strikes on a batter standing deep in the box to end a tough inning when they went to that very first practice with their $5 tee ball glove, hat that covered their face & the ear to ear grin? No. For young girls it starts out as a fun thing to do. Then it becomes a social event, something which we males have a hard time coming to grips with. Wasn't there a Candrea Coaching tip lately that talked about the social aspect of girls softball & how important it was to allow the girls to gab a bit during warm-up to help feed the social appetite? That tip hit me dead on recently.
Anyhow, allow me to get back to the subject here. There are several questions that you need to ask yourself:
1. As your daughter having fun?
2. Is she learning?
3. Is she getting better?
4. Based upon the assumed trend of improvement (assuming the coach is doing his or her job) do you anticipate her continued improvement?
5. Is she getting her fair share of circle time? You mentioned that she was...and most of the posts I see about disgruntled pitchers are caused by the fact that their DD did not get enough mound time.
6. Is this coach capable of improving the other girls on the team to be up to your standards? It was assumed somewhere along this thread that you believe your DD to be the best person on the team. That's not that bad of a place to be in, is it? What an opportunity for her to learn leadership, humility & several other valuable life lessons.
7. What is your goal for her? This is an important one. If you have built a massive trophy case & your primary goal as a parent is to full that case with hardware & create a huge picture album with pictures of her & her team winning trophies, then this is something you need to consider. I don't know about the other 25 comments, but hardware is something the team should earn, not something you should get just for making the "right team". Every coach out there knows of a few "soft" tournaments they can enter just to collect hardware. We all know that is not going to force our players to excel, which is why the tournaments which fill up in January are the ones which present the largest challenge for the teams. Last comment on this point...I can personally attest to knowing a team in Ohio that collected a ton of hardware last year. Unreal! That team has since folded. The girls have plenty of pictures collecting 1st & 2nd place trophies, but the players simply did not want to stay with that coach.
There is a lot to be said about the long term benefits the girls can get from any coach. It's one of the reason why I do what I do, why we (as coaches) give as much of our time as we do. My own players and their parents know this and all players should have that kind of confidence in their coach.
My short term opinion....give the coach a chance. You might be surprised by what can be accomplished by next Summer.
Hope this was helpful & good luck to you & your DD, Mercedes!