Whos Worse?

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• Feb 24, 2008

• #1

Here is another good topic to hit on..In the world of competitive girls sports who are the biggest complainers Mothers or fathers. My story goes like this earlier today my kid played in a CYO semi final City Championship game. The game was very physical as many girls basketball games are. Jump balls, hacking fouls and untimley turn overs ect. To shorten this up since this isn't about softball the game goes into three overtimes. Finally after the game was over and it was decided by one point many mothers started shouting "you didnt loose they cheated you" so being the the type of guy that I am I put an eye on some of the Fathers and they were basicly congratulating the winners and saying good game to the losers.

Now revert this to what hapen's on the diamond each weekend in softball and you make the call!!!

 

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• Feb 24, 2008

• #2

IMHO... I think fathers pretty much know CYO is what it is When it comes to fastpitch softball both Mothers and Fathers are a little wacky. I coached CYO for 8 years and know exactly what you are talking about.......

 

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• Feb 24, 2008

• #3

Awww big daddy---you must like stirrin' the pot. ? ? ? Yeah, I'm gonna jump in on this one. ? ;D

I think this is another one of those cases of apples vs oranges/venus vs mars. ?Men and women have such vastly different life experiences, that how they react to or perceive the same situation can be completely different.

What the dads in that gym saw was a hard fought, rough and tumble GAME. ?No hard feelings when it was over, just congratulations, the better team won.

What the moms in that gym saw was a dirty FIGHT. ?Their babies were being cheated, bullied and pushed around by a vicious gang.

It's not politically correct, or easy to swallow, but there it is. ? :-/

It's like the time one of my sons and I watched one of those ultimate fighting matches---they were punching, kicking, elbowing the snot out of each other ~ and after it was over, they stood up, shook hands and hugged each other.

No way any females are gonna do this---with women, it's always personal. ?A woman is gonna call her girlfriends to help jump you in the parking lot. ?

 

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• Feb 24, 2008

• #4

Katjoe! I love to stir it up! but I side with you chicks are brutal. I could go into great detail about my last team and some of those moms but I wont!!!

 

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• Feb 24, 2008

• #5

LOL!!! ? What?, did you have one swingin' at someone with a bar of Dial in a sock??? ? : ;D

 

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• Feb 24, 2008

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How about this. We had a mom purposely bash my wife, in front of my kid, before a game, while we were warming up. She had my kid in tears. :'(

 

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• Feb 24, 2008

• #7

Momma, now mommas are alway protective of their babies! You would think with the daddy's girl virus (yes i'm guilty) the opposite would be true. With this dad it is a lesson learned,we need to work harder girls, tough love kinda thing after the game on the field. But in private we are complimentary, supportive and lend a shoulder to cry on when needed. We as father/daughters are only able to share this wonderful game of fastpitch for a short time. Our hearts ache at missed grounders, called third strikes and pickles that don't have a happy ending. But we rejoice silently for the special time together with our daughters that is over in the blink of an eye.

 

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• Feb 24, 2008

• #8

I am sure it can go either way depending on the situation but last weekend we traveled to Columbus to a soccer tournament for my son and it was 10U and the moms on the other team were more brutal than the dads. My husband wouldn't even come up the stairs to the viewing area. It was getting pretty brutal. I myself found it quite amusing (in an immature pathetic way! )


By the way for those of you from that area. We were in the Ohio first complex, do they have any indoor softball in there? It seemed like they had a lot of stuff back in there and the soccer building was pretty nice.

 

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• Feb 24, 2008

• #9

wgman21 what do you mean by bash she hit her or yelled at her

 

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• Feb 25, 2008

• #10

When I coached CYO 4th grade, I had an angry mob threaten to beat me up after a game because my pitchers were too fast. Luckily I had one of the grandmothers there to stick up for me. CYO parents are the worst...

 

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• Feb 25, 2008

• #11

I have coached for now in my 10th year. I have had "conversations" with fathers about playtime & issues. The only problems I ever had were with Mother's. The two situations I ever had were not "conversations" with those mom's.

Now that being said, those are specific situations...may not be true with everyone.

 

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• Feb 25, 2008

• #12

As I say this, remember, I'm a MOM just getting in her opinion...not stirring things up here! ?"Mom's" are a fisty bunch, no doubt about it. ?Over the years, we've had far more issues with "Mom's" being down right mean & nasty, than Dad's...by far! ?We even witnessed this at our most recent tournament, and the nasty "Moms" were from the organization HOSTING THE TOURNAMENT! ?No lie! ?I'm not saying they were all rude, and the teams we played, coaches & players, treated us with total respect. ?But those Moms left a sour taste in our mouth, to say the least. ?It happens alot, a reputable team gets a a non-so nice reputation, simply because of its rude fans. ?The impression we leave on the field is one thing, but the impression people leave of themselves in the stands is the one thats hard to live down and it affects the entire organization. ?I also noticed that you see more of this "bad behavior" at some tournaments than others. ?We've learned to stay clear from specific tournaments due to all the drama we've seen. ?The minute parents forget its about the girls is when things start going downhill. ?I'm a "cheerleader" of a Mom, to say the least and there will never be a game that I don't encourage my girls. ?I love to see parents hootin' and hollerin' and encouraging their kids that are working so hard out on that field. ?I'd like to see more of it, actually. ?Cheering is one thing, but derogatory remarks to the opponent is unacceptable ?There's never any excuse for bashing a child and her performance...EVER! ?And I truly believe any person; mom, dad, grandma...whoever, that insists on behaving in this manner, has no business being at a childs sporting event. ?

 

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• Feb 25, 2008

• #13

how about grand parents. was at a tourney with my dd, hanging out between games when we heard a man in his sixties, at least, yelling some very nasty things directly at the pitcher on a field behind us, we walked over to see what was going on and it was a game between two teams that couldn't have been over 10 years old.

 

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• Feb 25, 2008

• #14

Thats just wrong.

 

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• Feb 25, 2008

• #15

I think it is pathetic that there are enough examples of bad behavior for this topic to even exist. Especially love the 'need to stick up for the kids against the evil officials who are trying to steal the game away' excuse for acting like a moron.

 

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• Feb 25, 2008

• #16

41softball said:

wgman21 what do you mean by bash she hit her or yelled at her

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She went off verbally on my wife, in front of my daughter, on purpose. She knew it would upset my daughter, and it did. She had my daughter balling her eyes out.

 

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• Feb 25, 2008

• #17

Do I dare respond to this post, knowing my wife reads these boards too? I will PASS

 

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• Feb 25, 2008

• #18

Thankfully, the really ugly events have been few and far between for me. But for every "evil Dad" story I can easily think of an equal "crazy Mom" story, so they are just about equal.

This past year I had two incidents where a parent- one a Mom, one a Dad- follow me all the way from the field, through the parking lot, right up to my car while I was getting out of my plate gear while reaming me a new one all the way.

The guy was more aggresive and profane, the lady just just plain annoying.

The Dad blew a fuse because I ejected his kid from a game (my only ejection last year). The kid was called out on a third strile (it was a good pitch on the outside corner) and then proceeded to scream, "F___ this sh___!", and throw the bat all the way from the plate to the dugout as hard as you can throw a bat. A well deserved ejection I didn't even have to think twice about. Too bad their team was playing with only nine players and the ejection caused an automatic forfeit.

The lady was mad because we had a tie game go into extra innings, then the other team came back and won it. She was mad that it was getting dark and we didn't call the game a couple of innings earlier- when her team was still ahead!

The guy was getting threatening, so after listening to him and trying to stay calm for as long as I could, I finally had to get in his face and tell him to go pound sand.

The lady was going on and on and on in a far less threatening manner, so I had to very politely tell her to go pound sand...

 

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• Feb 25, 2008

• #19

From a coach's view point there is very few problems that occur that are more detrimental to a team than mother who is constantly whispering in the ears of her husband and other team parents on how her daughter is picked on and treated unfair. They tend to be sarcastic and breed pre-madonna's in players, the girl who is told by the parents that they are a star and don't need to do as the coaches teach them and that they know best because their daddy has watched over 2000 baseball games while drinking his 24,000 cans of beer, 1500 pizzas, 3000 bowls of popcorn, while burning up 500 remote control batteries, and breaking down 3 lazy boys. Even if this girl is an A player which they usually are not they are finding the fast track to the bench, and may end up being black balled on all teams that know them because they are uncoachable, and therefore end up falling further behind and going no where.

So let's rephrase the question who is worse the Mother with the constant cancerous tongue, or the Husband who don't shove a sock in her mouth and duct tape it shut. As well as getting off his sorry butt and learning the game from the great male and female coaches who are doing their best to improve the girls skills.

This post would not apply to all the fantastic ladies or fathers that are on the sidelines every weekend that I have met over the years but if it comes down the who is worse I can go toe to toe with a man because their idea or expressing their view point is in your face and intimidate the coach but a mother will poison everything around her and the team will rot from the inside out.

 

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• Feb 26, 2008

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Reading these posts, I have to agree with the crazy Mom comments. Some good comments above. I agree with Bretman, I have a more difficult time with the Female causing the problem. Most seem to be female fans being rude to the umpires or other team. When I umpired little league it was the same thing.