Dealing with parents

[VE_05]

Dealing with parents who say they can't make practice at the last minute. How do you handle situations like this? I struggle and get frustrated with this. I put lots of time and effort to get a field lined up, work around schedule and then BAM. You get that text saying they can't make it they have plans. What should a coach do?

 

[CARDS]

Dealing with parents who say they can't make practice at the last minute. How do you handle situations like this? I struggle and get frustrated with this. I put lots of time and effort to get a field lined up, work around schedule and then BAM. You get that text saying they can't make it they have plans. What should a coach do?

This should be part of your parents meeting right after tryouts as far as expectations and consequences.
As a coach regardless how good the player is if you allow the player or family to dictate commitment your team will suffer.

We had parents/players sign a commitment contract. Nothing legal or binding but it helps the players and parents understand that the level of commitment for this level of play requires dedication.
At 16U and above the field of players thins and most of the ladies and families still involved know what they need to do to be successful. Under 16 and those coming from a team that played more Recreational events need direction and guidance as they take the step up in play as long as you are consistent, state expectations and manage to those expectations you will be ok.

As far as consequences failure to make practices, games will cost the player playing time or at least starts.

 

[OhPhat]

I fully understand there are situations that come up occasionally, but they should be few and far between. Our player/parent agreement addresses attendance and clearly states that the lack of attendance will effect playing time.

 

[daboss]

Diplomacy is quickly becoming a lost art but still has its place in so many facets of life. You thought you signed on as a coach but a head coach wears many hats. The best solution for this problem has already been shared. Be sure everyone is fully aware of the need to commit and fully participate in team functions. Without the effort they will eventually find themselves trying to break into a roster that even the best can't dominate. Everyone is replaceable. As a head coach you should only use this option when everything else fails but know it to be true.

 

[BHaines]

I urge you to address this issue with your parents from the very start of their time with your team. Make sure you are very clear with your expectations and the consequences for missing practice. And then STICK to these consequences no matter the level of talent of the player. I speak to you from experience. Failure of a player to attend and participate in team meetings/practices/functions is a sure way to begin to rot your team from the inside out. Be clear; Be consistent.