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I need some help. I just got home from a rec game. I have been in tears for an hour now and nothing is getting better.
At this point I am very very frustrated with my 12 yo daughter. She has got me to the point of yanking her off of every team she is on right now. She is running track and on a rec and travel team. She claims to love all of it. But I am seeing a problem. She slacking at both softball teams. She is a catcher. Tonight at rec she claimed to not be able to see the ball. I wasn't there but when I got there she was in the field playing like she doesn't give a crap. A big part of the problem is that she is getting into her own head. She had a bad game about a month ago and ever since then if she messes up she completely shuts down. Doing no one anywhere any good. She is now to the point that she has moved completely down low in the batting order and sits more than she plays (which in turn reassures her in her line of thinking which is that she s#@ks) She was lead off batter and starting catcher all winter and earlier this spring. I keep trying to tell her that she needs to shake off things and make up for it. How do I rebuild that drive and confidence in her? Rec should help with that but she almost seems to have completely lost her will to play. She cries and cries when I tell her that if she isn't going to give it her all that she needs to quit. How unfair would it be to the team (of 11) to yank her out. She isn't giving it her best, almost not even trying. I am so torn. I can't afford to do weekend stays and drive all over the place if she isn't even going to give it her best. Travel hurts our budget very much. I have several unfinished construction projects do to lack of time and money because of travel. Not to mention things that my other 2 give up for their sister. She is being unfair to us, her siblings, her team and most of all herself. Anyone have some suggestions on things to try or what I should do? :'( :'(
(PS Please excuse any typing errors or incomplete/rambling sentences it is hard to type with tears in your eyes.)
At this point I am very very frustrated with my 12 yo daughter. She has got me to the point of yanking her off of every team she is on right now. She is running track and on a rec and travel team. She claims to love all of it. But I am seeing a problem. She slacking at both softball teams. She is a catcher. Tonight at rec she claimed to not be able to see the ball. I wasn't there but when I got there she was in the field playing like she doesn't give a crap. A big part of the problem is that she is getting into her own head. She had a bad game about a month ago and ever since then if she messes up she completely shuts down. Doing no one anywhere any good. She is now to the point that she has moved completely down low in the batting order and sits more than she plays (which in turn reassures her in her line of thinking which is that she s#@ks) She was lead off batter and starting catcher all winter and earlier this spring. I keep trying to tell her that she needs to shake off things and make up for it. How do I rebuild that drive and confidence in her? Rec should help with that but she almost seems to have completely lost her will to play. She cries and cries when I tell her that if she isn't going to give it her all that she needs to quit. How unfair would it be to the team (of 11) to yank her out. She isn't giving it her best, almost not even trying. I am so torn. I can't afford to do weekend stays and drive all over the place if she isn't even going to give it her best. Travel hurts our budget very much. I have several unfinished construction projects do to lack of time and money because of travel. Not to mention things that my other 2 give up for their sister. She is being unfair to us, her siblings, her team and most of all herself. Anyone have some suggestions on things to try or what I should do? :'( :'(
(PS Please excuse any typing errors or incomplete/rambling sentences it is hard to type with tears in your eyes.)