When Do You Change Teams?

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My DD has had good summer with her travel ball club but unfortunately there have been some disturbing issues arise that has effected her and her attitude towards the team. She still plays @ 100% and still gets along w/her teammates but she doesn't act like she did @ the beginning of the season. She has gotten to play for three other clubs as a guest player and you could see the differnce in her. Is it time to look elsewhere or not? Need some opinions.

 

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You finish your commitment to the team you are on!

 

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AMEN! No commitment these days!

 

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That isn't the issue. My DD had two rules:
#1... Give 100%
#2... Once you start you finish.
Just looking for advice for the 2010 season.

 

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Absolutely. Finish your committment to this years team but come try-out time, do what is best for your dd. If she isn't playing to her potential due to team issues, find another team. Don't bite on the first one that offers though, be selective and do your research.
Go to as many try-outs as you can and see who has what to offer and compare.

 

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Do whats best for your DD and family. The rest will work itself out. If she is not happy then nobody is happy.

 

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Looks like everyone is on the same page that commitments should normally be honored for the season and that you need to be looking for another team come tryouts. I'm going to go out on a limb, however, and say that there may be some extreme situations in which a departure from the team during the season is best for the DD and might even be best for the team. As long as such a departure is done civilly and without leaving any party high and dry on just a few minutes, hours, or days notice . . .

Sorry Danger, you posted while I was writing my post. I think you and I might differ in how extreme the situation should be before a DD decides not to stick out the season, but I understand from whence you are coming.

 

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Klump, gave you great advice. Don't make a pressure decision. Research and talk to parents. Sometimes its not the best team, but what is the best fit for your dd. Example is she a pitcher and they aleady have 3 pitchers. Very few kids can play multi positions well. They only need outfield and your dd has never played the OF. So ask what they are looking for. The good news , many good teams with good coaches. 10 years ago your choices were few. My dd has got to sub for many teams this spring and all had great kids, parents and coaches. She has been lucky to play for two good coaches , above this post.

 

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NEVER Quit ...always finish. Next year a different story. But its Bad Karma and teaches our Kids nothing (Nothing GOOD) to quit.

 

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Seems as if by by agreeing to be a guest player on other teams this season, you may have answered your own question?!

Look elsewhere (after the season if you can wait) and take the advice of the other posters here. I will say we had a girl ask for her release this year in the middle of the season and it was granted by the coach. The released player was happier, and the rest of the team was, too. Wasn't as if there was any bad blood, just differing opinions on playing time and overall the player's (and her parents') perception of her importance to the team. Letting her go mid-season was right for everyone. Not saying this is your situation, but if you are at all unhappy and your daughter is acting differently...her teammates are certainly noticing it like you are.

 

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Try this one on for size. A coach's daughter recently asked her parent to move her down to the end of the batting order. She had been batting near the top of the order all season, but hadn't had a single hit in more than a dozen games. The daughter was not only unhappy about her performance, but also disturbed by the fact that her teammates were grumbling about her lack of production and the fact that in timed games, she was getting more at-bats than more productive hitters placed at the bottom of the order.

What happened? He didn't move her. He knows she'll break out of that slump eventually. Maybe she'll change teams for next year!

 

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never quit ...always finish. Next year a different story. But its bad karma and teaches our kids nothing (nothing good) to quit.

amen!

 

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We are kind of in the same postion. Have not guest played because our team plays a busy schedule. There is some issues with another girl that plays the same position thinking that she should be the starter there and not my DD. Her parents feel that way also. ( they are the few that feel that way on the team). We are torn because we have been happy with the team up until recently but it is getting more and more difficult. I think that waiting till the end of the season is a must. You have already made a commitment. Start looking now for tryout dates and times and teams that you may be interested in joining. The season is almost over and it would be wrong to leave a team stranded right before nationals.

 

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When Do You Change Teams ? Early and often. MD

 

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My DD has had good summer with her travel ball club but unfortunately there have been some disturbing issues arise that has effected her and her attitude towards the team. She still plays @ 100% and still gets along w/her teammates but she doesn't act like she did @ the beginning of the season. She has gotten to play for three other clubs as a guest player and you could see the differnce in her. Is it time to look elsewhere or not? Need some opinions.

Unfortunetly your story is not uncommon. It is ashame how a game can bring about the worst in people. Especially parents.....

My advice.....

Stay positive in front of your DD

Be very careful of what you say and who you say it to.....I have found that you just cant trust everyone.......

When the season is over, ask yourself one thing. Whats the best for your DD.

I understand your position. I really do.

Good Luck!

 

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Being a "guest player" without the head coaches blessing was against our rules. We treated it like HS ball - play for YOUR team, and YOUR TEAM only during the season. After your team finishes their season (usually after the Nationals) all players should be released. Then you are free to do as you wish. Never had any conflicts or problems doing it that way. You can scope other teams without actually playing for them.

 

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I will say that my dd has guest played for a few teams, but she is very happy with her home team. Sometimes, she just likes to go out and play when her team is off, for instance this weekend she gets to play with some of her friends from high school. We are always very open with our "home" coach and he has no problems, and if he did we would happily go with what he says because we respect him. We have had other coaches try to get her to switch but we would never do that. So I think with guest playing you need to be very upfront with your intentions. If your dd just wants to get in some more games, great, if you are scouting other teams thats a definite no!

 

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Too much personal time, family time, vacation time, work time, and $ invested to remain on a team you and dd are not excited about. Start looking now. Watch other teams. See who is at try-outs. Talk to other parents. blah, blah, blah. Sounds from post that you have already made up mind. And looks like everyone agrees that it is time for a change.

 

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TODAY!!! Get your dd to a team that will utilize her skills and ability instead of playing the lesser players who go to the coach for lessons or something. Just kidding, of course.

 

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My DD has had good summer with her travel ball club but unfortunately there have been some disturbing issues arise that has effected her and her attitude towards the team. She still plays @ 100% and still gets along w/her teammates but she doesn't act like she did @ the beginning of the season. She has gotten to play for three other clubs as a guest player and you could see the differnce in her. Is it time to look elsewhere or not? Need some opinions.

If this is a visble problem..........there is the key, ask her to tell you what she likes and dislikes about that team. It might not be the team but a players little comments your DD does not like to see or hear that is being made. One player made the difference in a team, when that player left, the team started having fun and winning........coaches couldn't see this but down deep the players did. FUN and Winning make the players happier. I would guess there is a player factor that has her down and its not the team.......ask the questions and find the source of the problem.