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Just 4 weeks left this year anyway, play hard and more doors will be opened for her in August.
Unfortunetly your story is not uncommon. It is ashame how a game can bring about the worst in people. Especially parents.....
My advice.....
Stay positive in front of your DD
Be very careful of what you say and who you say it to.....I have found that you just cant trust everyone.......
When the season is over, ask yourself one thing. Whats the best for your DD.
I understand your position. I really do.
Good Luck!
First, let me preface this by saying neither of my dd's have left a team mid season. We have always finished our commitments. With that being said, I am not sure that the whole commitment thing is something that should just be aimed at only the players. I have seen many teams make promises to players and not deliver. Aren't those broken commitments? So many posts about teaching our kids about commitment...How about explaining to the player, well your team wasn't honest about how they would treat you as a player so we need to look somewhere else?! Isn't that a possibility?
I kept my dd on a team last season that looking back we should've left that team in mid June. If I had it all to do over again, we would be gone. I still think I kept my kid in a horrible situation that I could've changed. I don't ever want her to think commitment is more important than her. We've talked a lot about the situation and I am convinced I handled it all wrong.
I believe you wait until the season is over to change teams, under most circumstances. Although I do believe there are some circumstances that give just cause to leave a team immediately.
Commitment and honesty works both ways....
First, let me preface this by saying neither of my dd's have left a team mid season. We have always finished our commitments. With that being said, I am not sure that the whole commitment thing is something that should just be aimed at only the players. I have seen many teams make promises to players and not deliver. Aren't those broken commitments? So many posts about teaching our kids about commitment...How about explaining to the player, well your team wasn't honest about how they would treat you as a player so we need to look somewhere else?! Isn't that a possibility?
I kept my dd on a team last season that looking back we should've left that team in mid June. If I had it all to do over again, we would be gone. I still think I kept my kid in a horrible situation that I could've changed. I don't ever want her to think commitment is more important than her. We've talked a lot about the situation and I am convinced I handled it all wrong.
I believe you wait until the season is over to change teams, under most circumstances. Although I do believe there are some circumstances that give just cause to leave a team immediately.
Commitment and honesty works both ways....
Being a "guest player" without the head coaches blessing was against our rules. We treated it like HS ball - play for YOUR team, and YOUR TEAM only during the season. After your team finishes their season (usually after the Nationals) all players should be released. Then you are free to do as you wish. Never had any conflicts or problems doing it that way. You can scope other teams without actually playing for them.
So true Marty! every bit of it. I have always believed in expecting my dd to follow thru with her commitments but there have been times that I have let her walk away b/c of the negativity. I want my dd to be Honest, Respectful and Loyal to those around her and if I feel she is not getting that it return I will and have removed her from that environment.