I managed the younger DD's team from 9-13, at that point, she knew she did not have any interest in College softball, so she stopped traveling. At a very young age, she showed a ton of God-given talent, and was not afraid to work hard. I believe I pushed my own thoughts of playing, ability, etc. (from the thoughts of a grown man) on her. I told her many times, and it's true. She had more talent in her hand than I had in my body. I was a decent player, but had to work very hard for all that I did. It would have been much easier and I could have gone much further with her talent. I tried to walk-on to a D1 baseball team, and made it much further than I thought I would have. I would have done anything to play college ball, so looking at my DD and her ability at a young age, I thought it would be a done deal. So in some way, and she says no to this notion, I feel like MY interest in playing college baseball, pushed onto her, and perhaps pushing her harder than I should, pushed her AWAY from the game. She is a sophomore and a nice player, and an even better kid. In the end, she is a great kid, a great student, and shes as good in softball as SHE wants to be. If it's good enough for her, it has to be good enough for me.
So as advise to the young parent/coach.....If you don't know what your doing....Educate yourself, or get out of the dugout. To the parent/coach that knows what your doing.......Treat your daughter like any other member of the team. This is the difficult part......Do NOT talk team/game/practice stuff outside of those times. You don't follow the other players home and tell them what they did wrong, why do it to your daughter?