Coaches recruiting at a Clinic?

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I do not post much, but enjoy the site and it's the insightful and humorous (at least I hope it's intentionally humorous) information that this site provides. With that being said, I ran across a situation recently I wanted to get some perspective on this situation since my DD is relatively new to the tournament softball. We were at a clinic and there were coaches there actively trying to recruit girls that were performing well to play on their team. My DD is very happy with her group and loves playing with them, one of the coaches approach me and asked if we would be interested in playing for their team. I politely declined, but I thought is was very poor etiquette and my knee jerk reaction was I would never play for someone who show up a clinic just to try to recruit girls for their team. Playing sports my whole life, I recognized that this occurs, but it just sat wrong with me. Am I overracting? Any thoughts would be appreciated.

 

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This late past August I think its very poor taste.

 

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This topic will cover morality, faith and all the social issues going on today. Here we go...

 

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Sounds like a desperate attempt by some shady coaches. It wouldn't sit well with me either. It makes me wonder if they do not have enough players or worse even, are the willing to dump the players they have now and replace them with what they see as better talent?? Either way....shady as hell and those are what we call softball snakes.

 

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its a jungle out there ... always has been and always will be part of the travel circuit ... alot depends on the context of the invite .... Did they ask " do you have a current team " first ? Prob not. If you kid is good and playing on a lower level team than say the top 10-15 in the state then you better get real used to it .... I'd expect parking lot back slapping , private emails , phone calls . just being real.

 

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I don't see a problem with him asking the question. Who knows maybe your dd is looking for a team? You don't know if you don't ask. Now if he persisted even after you declined or stated you were already happy on a team then he's crossed the line. Otherwise take it as a compliment.

 

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It happens get used to it. Its called select for a reason...... another coach may try to select your best player.

 

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Yeah, a lot is in the approach ... if a coach asks if you're looking for or are already committed to a team, and then doesn't push the issue when you say you are already committed, then take it as a compliment ... if they push it, they are a jerk/snake in my eyes ...

 

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This is a good reason why there is a need for one strong governing body.My daughters each played different sports, along with softball. The other sports
required sign contracts that did not permit changing teams once the contract was signed.

 

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This is a good reason why there is a need for one strong governing body.My daughters each played different sports, along with softball. The other sports
required sign contracts that did not permit changing teams once the contract was signed.

That would really **** if the coach made a lot of promises and then reneged on them after the contract was signed. So then the players are obligated to be miserable the rest of the year? I would not be in favor of such a system.

 

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That would really **** if the coach made a lot of promises and then reneged on them after the contract was signed. So then the players are obligated to be miserable the rest of the year? I would not be in favor of such a system.

Isn't the system already in place with coaches that refuse to release you from the roster asa/usssa?

 

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Isn't the system already in place with coaches that refuse to release you from the roster asa/usssa?

Personally I haven't been down that road but it is my understanding that if a coach holds a player hostage the parent can resolve it by speaking with the commissioner. That may not apply with every sanction and I'm sure there are limits to how many times that card can be played.

 

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Isn't the system already in place with coaches that refuse to release you from the roster asa/usssa?

yeah, and the ones that don't release them are puke.... and they "don't own" them. Release and move on.

 

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Agreed

 

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Yeah, a lot is in the approach ... if a coach asks if you're looking for or are already committed to a team, and then doesn't push the issue when you say you are already committed, then take it as a compliment ... if they push it, they are a jerk/snake in my eyes ...

Everyone thanks for the info. I do take it as a compliment, but thought it was in poor taste. As I have seen some of the comments, I wanted to provide further information. It was not a "who does your daughter play for?" Does she like it?" and then let it go. The person was not affiliated with the clinic, showed up and began scouting the girls. I was in earshot as he was not so quietly evaluating the girls including my DD. Obviously leaving some of the details out to protect the guilty, but was given the 5 minute why your DD should leave that team and play for me. I expect this after games, in the parking lot, etc, but not at a clinic hosted by someone else. Just wanted to get people's thoughts who have much more experience on this topic.

 

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Everyone thanks for the info. I do take it as a compliment, but thought it was in poor taste. As I have seen some of the comments, I wanted to provide further information. It was not a "who does your daughter play for?" Does she like it?" and then let it go. The person was not affiliated with the clinic, showed up and began scouting the girls. I was in earshot as he was not so quietly evaluating the girls including my DD. Obviously leaving some of the details out to protect the guilty, but was given the 5 minute why your DD should leave that team and play for me. I expect this after games, in the parking lot, etc, but not at a clinic hosted by someone else. Just wanted to get people's thoughts who have much more experience on this topic.

I think I may know this guy, his daughter might play for Valpo......

 

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This is a topic that's discussed frequently on here. When you add the "why your DD should leave that team and play for me", that clearly is just wrong in my eyes and says a lot about the coach. We have to keep in mind that we're talking about kids here, and that these kids and their families have already made a commitment to play for another team. If they do jump teams at the first opportunity, that says a lot about them. As others have mentioned, if someone has been lied to about what to expect on their current team, I have no trouble with them deciding to proactively look for another opportunity, but to have another coach aggressively pursue them knowing they have another commitment is just wrong. No respectable coach with class is going to talk like that ... and anyone who responds to it and leaves their current team, well let's just say they probably deserve each other. It's an altogether different thing for a coach to say to someone we like your game, come check out our team during the upcoming season and we'd love to have you come try out for next year's team in August.

 

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i think i may know this guy, his daughter might play for valpo......

lol

 

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I think I may know this guy, his daughter might play for Valpo......

lol, Idont have time to poach any more. One exception, If shes an orphan I will do what ever I can to recruit her

 

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