did something get deleted? are friends on a community team (that's an entirely different kind of response)? personally, and my DD can attest to this now only recently, is that when u play with friends, you tend to be less conmpetitive in the long run...you accept Sally McDaddyball to play her position FOREVER, and even though you might be better, as friends, you wouldn't want to upset her so you take what u get
also, you find it easier to "hang out" instead of practicing, and when the weekends come and you'd ratehr be on vacation or at a Reds game, you dont feel like it's that important playing with your buds because you think they secretly wish they could be there with you....
and when friends play together, they tend NOT to tell them how they really feel, miss a practice, "oh too bad" (what the hell is wrong with her!), or keep making errors, "nice try!" (what the hell, princess mcbootaball?)
get her out of her element...girls make friends anywhere, and if she lives in the same community anyway, she'll see them at school, etc