leaving a team this late in the game??

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I just had my starting pitcher email me to tell me she was leaving my team for another team, 4 days before our first tournament. How low is that? Have any of you went through this situation? How could anyone feel good about leaving 10 other girls who counted on her and been with her for 4 years?
I just can not beleave someone could do that.
 
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That is really sad. Actually, every player is only committed for one year at a time, but she should have honored her commitment to your team. Just curious... could you IM me the team she defected to. You don't have to and I would understand. I am just curious.
 
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Why did you have to go and say that Johnnies. Now we are all curious ;)
 
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Have you submitted your sanction (ASA, NSA) rosters? If so, you will want to talk to their family about obtaining a release.
 
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I feel for ya!!! I had a situation similar to that last week, happen to me. I had one girl tell me right after our last game on Sunday that she was going to a team, I won't mention names, but it is a well-known organization with the big name that came-a-callin' and her dad accepted. I hope he enjoys watching her sit the bench this summer, she was playing darn near 100% of the time with us. Her dad doesn't understand this other team was looking for a body to fill a spot on the bench...Anyway, enough about me and my woes. Softball like life continues and someone else will come along that can play. You might be surprised to see the team you still have take it up a few notches. Good luck this season!
 
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I may be blessed, but I have never had this happen to me. I would question why she left all of a sudden. If she has a 4 year legacy with the team it would take something more than the-grass-is-greener to get her to leave. Did her parents influence the situation? Are they expecting a refund of fees? I would be a bit steamed if they had not approached me with their intentions and given me the opportunity to resolve any issues.
 
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Sending you an e mail , seems to me trying to avoid talking to you. Unless this is your normal means of communication. Was it from her are the parents? We try to keep a good communication line open with our parents and kids, but nothing is fool proof. We talk after games and practice.
 
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Yes she was on all my sanctions ASA, NSA, and USSSA. I don't think there is any rules set up there yet. At least in ASA you can be on more than 1 roster just can't play in the same tournament.
Yes she paid fee's don't know if they want them back but I defentaily wont give back. We don't charge a whole lot and it is made clear no refunds for dropping out after commiting.

Her dad wanted her to go to another team that he would coach after tryouts and she decided to stay with us. He was not happy but mom supported her decicion to do what she wanted. My Guess is dad influcenced her descion. He did this twice with his younger daughter, but those teams got a little more notice than I did.

No email is not our form of comunication except with tournament information. She dates my son, talks to him on phone every day, has been to our house in the last few weeks, saw her parents last week and talked about the up coming tournament. No mention of this. She hasn't been to any practices as is the same for about 4 girls. Not released from their school softball yet.

We do have a older solid defence this year who will have to step it up a notch but has the capability to still do well with my other 2 backup pitchers. I think we'll have a lot of fun if nothing else. many parents are releaved. this family screamed at their daughter a lot and many parents did not approve. We've had do ask dad to leave her alone or leave the diamond.
 
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Had it happen a couple of times. Usually it's the parents thinking that the grass is greener somewhere else, and not the girl. Puts you in a bit of a bind, but I've always gone ahead and given them their release from the rosters figuring it's better not having someone who doesn't want to be there polluting atmosphere in the dugout.

...And I'll second Lady Knight's opinion.
 
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Agreed ? there is no benefit from looking in the rear view mirror in this situation.
Just focus ahead and work harder and smarter on deciding which roads will best get the team and remaining athletes where you want to go.
Best wishes!
 
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Thanks everyone for your advice and support. Now that the shock and anger is starting to subside, I still have 10 devoted, talented girls who love the game and each other. We'll be o.k. Were in the Greenville early bird this weekend I'll let you know how we do without her.
 
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we just had a girl bow out 2 days before Greenville, but it was for personal reasons..
still, it doesn't make it any better..
at least the other girl who went to THAT other team, did it early...and like someone said here, hope your rear end is ready for the bench splinters
 
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I think this falls inder that "best fit" catagory. There are some player/parents who join teams thinking this all sounds good and should be a good oppertunity for their DD. Then the true colors come out and the shinning isn't as bright as it once seemed. This is usually a 2 way street where the player/parents aren't happy, and the coach hasn't followed thru with what he presented during try-outs. It's usually best for both just to part ways and let bygones be bygones. Try not to take it personnal. IT happens. Hopefully it works out best for both parties and you don't have to resort to hard feelings and name calling. Just remember, these aren't professionals, you don't own them. THEY pay to be on your team.
 
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Welcome to the club. We had a pitcher leave our team about a month ago leaving us with only one pitcher. On the other hand, the other girls and I can't wait to hit against her.
 
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My DD coach didn't live up to his end of the bargin. Can she be released from his roster without his consent? If so, how do we go about it?
 
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blazer... I understand the fit thing but after 4 years of the girl fitting( maybe not the parents) for her to do this this late is the problem I had. She was starting pitcher pitched 75-80% of the games so I don't think I made any promises I didn't live up to.But you are right about one thing it was for the best. When 1 door closes another opens. We were fortunate to find a replacement for the rest of the season. Just as good if not better than the one we lost and much better hitter and attitude from her. A really nice family comes along with her. So everything happens for a reason we were lucky it all worked out great.

On another note we played Greenville this weekend and did very well with our 2 back up pitchers. We placed 5th out of 11 and had so much fun. It gave me the opportunity to see what everyone else could really do. We were very proud of them. Played 5 games in one day and they came from behind to win around 11:30 last night, thats dedication
 
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indickerson... I know what you mean my girls want to play her team soooo bad. Don't know if we'll get the chance. Hope you can pick another one up It's almost impossable to play in any tournaments with only 1 pitcher.
 
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I had the same thing happen to me TWICE this year. One was a pitcher and her father was an ASSISTANT coach. The other was a UT player who left 10 days before our first tourney.

The great thing is: They both were replaced by better players with better attitudes. ?;D I was lucky.
 
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Think that's bad....what about a team being disbanned by the head of the organization right before tourney season!!!
 

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