leaving a team this late in the game??

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This has already been visited in another subject. If this is the same disband, then there is more to this than the head of the organization disbanding.

 

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Think that's bad....what about a team being disbanned by the head of the organization right before tourney season!!!

Already a thread devoted to this ( http://www.game-ex.com/cgi-bin/yabb2/YaBB.pl?num=1179922385 ), and it was closed because the subject had been addressed by both sides of the issue. While I understand that there are hard feelings, using this forum to inflame public opinion is not a productive use of anyone's time.....

 

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There is a lot more to this........

 

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Let her go man, let her go! I just go out of my way to say Hi and wave and smile when it happens to us.
I just lost a SS about 2 weeks ago, about the same deal. She went to a organization that has recruited our committed players yearly for the last 10 years. Makes me sick! - because they act all high and mighty and better that everybody else.

I have known you for a long time and you are a class act period. I have always enjoyed playing your teams. These buzzards are ruining Ohio Softball.

Keep your head up man, your will get another player, too much class not too.

In 15 years never once have we went after a player we knew was on another team. I don't know how some of these guys sleep, I guess the thrill of wining the local tourney is just, worth doing whatever it takes to win it.

Alright Buzzards, attack me! I don't care...

 

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I lost a number of players to other teams this past year between August (when we put the team together) and probably December. ?Things were really tough for a while, especially considering a few of the girls we lost were excellent players! ?What ended up happening was, we continued to work and thankfully found more girls. ?I'm not saying the talent level is the same as what we lost, but what we gained was good hard working girls. ?I'm blessed to have each on of them. ?Another thing I've learned, if I had it to do all over again, I would pay more attention to the families, not just the talent on the field when selecting players. ?We have an awesome collection of parents and players, now! ?I couldn't be more content with the girls I ended up with, and they are making progress, daily. ?It hurt each time I lost a girl, but in the end things worked out great. ?I was ready to hang it all up and try to find teams for the girls left this winter, but I am glad we stuck it out. ?I hope each one of the girls I lost has a great season, but if we play them...it would be nice to win!! ? ?Anyway, I've felt your pain, although I know I didn't lose the girls real late...but I lost 6 out of my 11! ? I hope all of your situations turn out as well as mine thankfully did...good luck.

 

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there could be reasons a coach doesn't know about, that a girl decides to go elsewhere. my daughter was picked to be on a team and when we went to the first 2 practices we found out several girls she had played with before also made the team. the girls were fine had no problems, but i wasn't going to spend another summer with their parents . we left without saying anything negative. we have to put up with these parents on our high school team but I WON'T during the summer!!

 

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"what goes around comes around" so they say! I believe that everything happens for a reason. 99.9% of the time you will be better off when the smoke clears.

 

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amen sad smoke has cleared and everything is much better.

 

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What does a parent do when a coach does not do what they say they will do when the team is formed? Say dd is not playing position promised and there is not an attitude or performance issue. Should the player stay or go???

 

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I've seen coaches promise the sun and the moon just to get players on their roster. Normally this is smells like trouble.... I'd rather deal with an upstanding guy who is going to tell me like is so I can help my DD improve her skills. Just look at the teams that have a revolving door of players. It doesn't take too long to figure out which organizations are run honestly and which ones are just plain "jokes." Eventually it will catch up to the the coach...It's a small world and reputations are built fast or destroyed even faster. The sad thing is that most coaches who recruit from other organizations using underhanded tactics are only out to benefit themselves and aren't sane enought to admit it and live in a fantasy world. In the end we all know and respect the coaches who love the game and do invest their time for the players. Stay strong....

 

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Thats one thing I do not do is make false promises. I let the girls and parents know before they commit how much playing time to expect and what positions I'm thinking of for them and If they are not happy with that I do not mind them finding what they are looking for. I think a girl who gets promised one thing and coach does not live up to that promise has every right to talk to coach and tryout somewhere else next year. I do not let my kids quit anything they made a commitment to no matter what the cercumstance is. But if they want to change or not do next year that is fine.

 

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well said. I am going through this no with my dd. There was a 12U coach who lost allot of players and could not even fill a roster over the winter and early spring. My daughter had many opportunities to play on other teams but I packaged 3 of my girls from last year to him. He agreed to give them all a fair shit and said that he was done getting players. Not only did he pick up another player he picked up other coaches and the buddy ball has not stopped. Playing in weak tournaments is not helping anything because he believes their team is better than what it really is. The good thing about competition is it all sorts its self out on the field eventually.

 

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Well said softballsuporter......Amen

 

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A question to all who have lost players ...
Did the parents ask for a refund, and if so, did you refund them?

 

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No they didn't ask and no I would not give. I think if you did there probably would be a lot more do it.
plus most of that money is already spent on uniforms, equipment , ect.

 

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I believe as a parent you have to look out for your daughter. We all pay money for our daughters to experience a higher level of play. If your daughter isn't good enough to play 3 out of 5 games then why did the coach keep her? My dd is a very good player and she is team oriented actually doesn't want to leave her team. But everytime she has to sit because the coach is kissing up to certain parents, I can see her spirit drop. She is only 13 if her spirit drops now I'm afraid she won't get it back. It's easy to fix the physical part of the game but hard to fix the mental.

 

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I just graduated and I normally don't agree at all on droping out this late in the game because you have committed to your team. Recently my mom lost it and hit me with the door and injured my arm and leg pretty bad I couldn't even bend my arm for a week and it was all bruised and my elbow was swallon up to the size of a softball and I had to jump out my window to get away from her and my dad was not there and my mom hurting me might of been an accident but now I need to work to pay for an apartment. I had to quit from my travel team which is really sad :'( because I love to play softball. I'm sorry team.

 

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07Dad you are correct that as parents we have to look out for our children. However as parents we are all too often blind to our own childs success's. What I mean is there may be many reasons why a player is not playing as much as you might expect. It is often that case that the player is getting better, but everyone else is not standing still. They are getting better as well. If they all started at the same level to begin with (which is almost never the case) then hopefully they will equally progress. Some kids just get bette quicker and then plateau. Others progress more slowly but consistantly. I think that it is important to look at it in the context of the entire season.

Is the player getting better? Is she better then when she joined the team? Is she having fun, and learning a team concept? These are all realistic questions and they are also tough to answer as a parent. We all tend to measure progress by playing time, and only by playing time.

It may very well be that there is some bias, this does happen. It is just my expereince that when we stand back and look at the situation fairly we find that often the player herself is progressing. Its when we get in her ear and in her mind with negative thoughts that they tend to begin to back-up progression wise.

I hope that this helps.

 

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edamame i contend that the parent being blind should not be a factor because the coach should be clear in why a player is not playing. the player and parent should be told in a direct fashion the reason for their lack of playing time. i don't mean a game or two but a player who is consistently not used. a player cannot stay in this situation if they have any hope of playing at a higher level.

 

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Let's put it this way, the captain of the team is leading in errors. So I don't think any of the other players are getting ahead of my dd.