To Accept or Not To Accept

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Coaches, please help out with advice. Apologies if this question has already been asked.

DD has been offered the last opening on a roster of 12 girls with a decent team...1 or 2 showcases a year, but several qualifiers. DD, who is uncertain about college ball, likes the team and wishes to play more competitive ball than with last team.

She has been given 3 days to accept or decline. We know that if she declines, there definitely is another girl who will be offered the spot.

DD is trying out for a premier organization this weekend. She won't hear their decision for about 7-8 days.

If she accepts the first offer, would it be unethical to accept an offer from the premier team should one be offered? My thought is that it would be acceptable because we know that there is another girl waiting to take the spot.

 

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What if said girl, seeing you have taken the first teams offer, decides to go to another team while you are waiting for the premier team. Is it ok to keep that girl in limbo, would you want some one to do that to your dd???

 

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Once you accept and commit it is not right to go back and change your mind. It is unfair to all. Like Twins said what if the other girl goes to another team because she hears she has no chance at the spot with team A. If I were a coach or another parent would be upset to hear someone did that. JMHO....

Tryout season stinks no one is on the same page and that is unfair a lot of the times. You need to consider what her chances of making the premier team are and how bad she wants to play for that team. Enough that is it worth risking passing up an offer on team A? It is a tough decision but you have a couple days to really think things over.....

 

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No disrespect meant - but what are we teaching our kids about making and honoring a commitment?

Consider this - You were offered and accepted a spot on a team only to be called 7-8 days later to hear they had someone better come along. Everyone would be on here bashing the organization for going back on their offer.

What makes a player's commitment to a team any different than a team's commitment to a player?

If you need more time to make your decision - talk to the coach of the first team. Don't take a spot only to jump once a premier spot opens up.

 

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Once you commit, you commit. If you aren't sure, don't commit. Jerking people around will only hurt your DD and any team that deals with her. Believe me, people will talk!

 

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Thanks for the quick responses. You all have confirmed something for me.

My intellect (??) was telling me that accepting the second offer would be ok, but my heart (and morals, I guess) were telling me to stay with the original commitment.

As long as you are great at answering questions, "What is the meaning of life?" and "Where can I buy the best hamburger?"

 

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Here is another thought. Contact the premier organization and let them know your daughter has an offer with a short time to accept. Ask them if they can let you know if they have interest in your daughter after trying out for the team. We learned that calling and talking to the coach before tryouts is an important part of the recruiting process.

 

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Definitely do not accept a second offer after committing to the first. Not fair to the organization or to the girls that weren't offered a spot in the first place. Not only that, but it will get around and your DD will be labeled as iffy and teams will think twice about taking her on.

Luvthegame has a good plan. Another thought is, If she really wants to play for the premier organization, turn down the original offer and go to the premier's tryout. If she doesn't make it, there will be plenty of teams still looking to round out their rosters later this fall.

 

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For the meaning of life, your on your own. I haven't even figured that one out yet. The burgers, Five Guys Burgers and Fries. Yum.

 

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No one should accept an offer if they are unsure. There will be teams looking for players all year long.

 

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Definitely do not accept a second offer after committing to the first. Not fair to the organization or to the girls that weren't offered a spot in the first place. Not only that, but it will get around and your DD will be labeled as iffy and teams will think twice about taking her on.

Luvthegame has a good plan. Another thought is, If she really wants to play for the premier organization, turn down the original offer and go to the premier's tryout. If she doesn't make it, there will be plenty of teams still looking to round out their rosters later this fall.

WHat about coache making an offer, thenn pulling the offer in a day or so? Is that fair to the dd?

 

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Learning to trust God and watching softball. Hardys

 

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Sorry this is all Greek to me. So you get an offer and you turn it down? So you can go to a premier team tryout? I'm not quite understanding the thoughts behind this. The other then premier will still be filling roster spots? Interesting.

 

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For the meaning of life, your on your own. I haven't even figured that one out yet. The burgers, Five Guys Burgers and Fries. Yum.

:lmao: River City Cafe in Myrtle Beach, SC the cajun burger is freakin good and the onion rings as big as a saucer!!!!

 

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Coaches, please help out with advice. Apologies if this question has already been asked.

DD has been offered the last opening on a roster of 12 girls with a decent team...1 or 2 showcases a year, but several qualifiers. DD, who is uncertain about college ball, likes the team and wishes to play more competitive ball than with last team.

She has been given 3 days to accept or decline. We know that if she declines, there definitely is another girl who will be offered the spot.

DD is trying out for a premier organization this weekend. She won't hear their decision for about 7-8 days.

If she accepts the first offer, would it be unethical to accept an offer from the premier team should one be offered? My thought is that it would be acceptable because we know that there is another girl waiting to take the spot.

This is a toughy all the way around its a gamble too at this point who says for real what going to happen on a team. Tryouts are hard you can pick the best of the best but they end up not meshing and teams struggle. If you are calling the first team "a decent team" then whats the prob. Ultimately(and this depends on age) its going to be your DD's decision.

 

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,, hey payjohn86,, i am with you on the five guys....pdad7

 

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OH - I LOVE THIS THREAD

OK - only my "OPINION" but it seems to me coaches have to give players opportunities to look at other teams - most coaches notice an amazing player - make an instant offer because they dont want them to go to another tryout because someone else will obviously grab her -

I say a rule needs to be made that girls get a chance to look at all options and a deadline date like Aug.20th to answer a coach when all try outs with all teams are over - IT IS NOT FAIR when a coach says this offer expires when you leave the tryout - OH coaches I get it - YOU WANT THAT PLAYER - BUT!!!!! what about the player - they need a chance to see what else might be out there!

 

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NO MORE RULES! Unfortunately, you have to pick. Prioritize, and talk to the coaches about what you are doing. Teams can't wait for you, and you can't wait for them either. It's a two way street. JMHO

 

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Once you commit, you commit. If you aren't sure, don't commit. Jerking people around will only hurt your DD and any team that deals with her. Believe me, people will talk!

that pretty much sums up my thoughts as well.

 

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NO MORE RULES! Unfortunately, you have to pick. Prioritize, and talk to the coaches about what you are doing. Teams can't wait for you, and you can't wait for them either. It's a two way street. JMHO

what about the opportunity to try out for more then one team??