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At the High School level?Realy?
What would you do if it was going on?
What would you do if it was going on?
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Shrug and let my kid work it out herself. I have been well trained, (by her), to stay out of her softball business. I'm allowed to attend games, cheer the team on, pay for lessons, and congratulate! 
Sometimes she asks for advice on how to handle a situation - but usually we get that advice from her hitting instructor. (I'm way too protective to give unbiased advice!)
Sometimes she asks for advice on how to handle a situation - but usually we get that advice from her hitting instructor. (I'm way too protective to give unbiased advice!)
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Shrug and let my kid work it out herself. I have been well trained, (by her), to stay out of her softball business. I'm allowed to attend games, cheer the team on, pay for lessons, and congratulate!
What!!! Your DD handles her own business?!?! What is she going to do in the real world when she has real problems....Oh wait nevermind, she is going to handle them lol.
Good for her, give her a pat on the back from Old Uber
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Daddyball can strike any where even high school. Is there any name worse than being called a daddyballer? If this is going on it will be exposed to all over time
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The question was "What would you do?"
The answer is "What can you do?" Nothing.
You can't complain to the coach or the A.D. Whether it be for Daddyball/ the coach doesn't know what he's doing/ my daughter should be Left Fielder/ whatever... As someone said in another thread, The HS coach is as interested in your input as you would be in their input as to how to do your job.
The answer is "What can you do?" Nothing.
You can't complain to the coach or the A.D. Whether it be for Daddyball/ the coach doesn't know what he's doing/ my daughter should be Left Fielder/ whatever... As someone said in another thread, The HS coach is as interested in your input as you would be in their input as to how to do your job.
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Is it really daddy ball?
Two scenarios:
1. HS head coach has 2 dd's on varsity. Both deserve to be there, both deserve to start, and the batting line-up is honest. This is not daddy ball, but the parents of a kid riding the pine might think it is, because they think their dd should be starting and want to see their kid play.
2. HS head coach has dd that plays SS and bats high in the line-up. The dd cannot hit, throw, or catch for the most part, and she does not move very well for a SS. There are better options on the bench. This is a classic case of daddy ball.
I honestly do not know your situation. Daddy ball can spring up anywhere at any level, so daddy ball at the HS level does not surprise me one bit. What made you think that HS would be immune to daddy ball?
What makes you think it's daddy ball? What's the situation? Do you think your dd is getting the shaft because of daddy ball?
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When I get on here and read some of the situations some of you deal with it makes me even that more thankful for our coaches and team. Our coach puts his best 9 out there no matter who they are-luckily my dd has been one of those 9 most of the time. She did earn her spot on the bench one game last season but as I said she EARNED that spot...haha. We did have one poisonous mom who seemed to feel differently because her dd who was a junior was not starting every game but 3 freshman were...mind you her dd was 2b freshman were OF and P. lmao. But because they were only freshman and starters we parents must have been kissing a$$. Quite humorous if you ask me.
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For all we know that mom was on here bashing the coach your happy with lol.
I remember a few years ago a mom was up in arms about her kid not being named Captain. Somebody pointed out the year before she posted how upset she was with the coach for benching her DD for missing practice or a game to go to Kings Island lol, so I've become a bit suspicious of coach (any level) bashing
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People bash coaches when they dont get what they feel they deserve?..... who would have thunk it :lmao:
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Very true guys. I like to think that the coaches out there arent as bad as they are sometimes made out to be.
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PS...these kids with the parents bashering the coaches are the same people who will be miserable in their careers...see it everyday...it is what you want it to be.
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My dd's HS coaches really know the game, put the best 9 out there. My only complaint is, as teachers, they are very long winded!! ;& They take a little to long discussing what they want the girls to do, instead of telling them quickly and getting them out there working on it!
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Sad, we are lucky in this area of the state. Most seem to know what they are doing.
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Absolutly stay out of it and tell her to work hard and hustle and she will be noticed, once you have gotten through tryouts and made the team she should know if she wants to stay or not, since everyone has started practice she is in it for the season . Hopfully daddyball is fair.
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I wasn't quite awake this morning when I posted - - so to finish my thought - - my kid has to be the one to handle it. Easier said than done, but that's the way it is here. I know it would frustrate me to watch it, but I would have to grin and bear it. I was just thinking today about how my parents never came to any of my games or meets, I'm really happy I can be there for my daughter - frustrating or not. It's just great to be at her games.
We don't have daddy ball at our school, fortunately. Our coach does have a rule that parents are not allowed to talk to her about "playing time, play calling, or any other player."
We don't have daddy ball at our school, fortunately. Our coach does have a rule that parents are not allowed to talk to her about "playing time, play calling, or any other player."
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BS rule -- all coach's should answer legit questions. It's not a democracy but it's not communism either.
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I'll answer any questions and concerns the players have regarding playing time. I won't talk to parents about play time, and I don't know many if any hs coaches that do. These kids are in high school now, it's time to start be responsible for themselves.
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I think if a program is ran fairly then one can say it is time to be responsible for themselves. I believe this to be true for the vast majority of programs out there. Though my kid (son, etc) has never been on the receiving end of it he has been on teams that are brutally unfair and beyond what a kid should have to deal with. When that occurs should a parent just sit by and watch? Nope. The question is now that many parents get riled up when it isn't the out of control situation. They get out of control when it's just slightly unfair or they have the perception of unfairness.
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I always talked to parents about any question they have as long as it didn't involve another player. Once it is addressed I may choose not to address it again but I do allow a parent to get something off their chest. At times I had the rule that the player had to be present and other times I didn't have that rule. I'm not sure which was best.
