Daddy ball

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The facts of this subject seem to follow any of these scenerios.
a.) Dad coach, the kid is an okay player and gets preferential treatment.
b.) Dad coach, the kid is an okay player and the Dad rides her like a rented mule.
c.) Dad coach, the kid is a good player and plays where she has earned.
d.) Dad coach, the kid is a good player and Dad feels he's got to platoon her to
keep from being accused of "Daddy Ball".
I coached a long time at many different levels, and the fact is my oldest daughter was done after her Sophomore year. She and her Mother and I recognized her abilities and shortcomings. My youngest daughter, was a much better player from a young age, practiced a lot and earned every bit of where and when she played. All through those 16 years this subject has been alive and my wife, who hates this sort of stuff about sports, has told me it simply boils down to this. She would say, "Wayne, you could be 25 -0 and win every game by 10 runs, but all that matters to these parents is THEIR KID". It's simply impossible to make everybody happy. I really believe there are very very few coaches who sign up for this to simply put their daughter on a stage.

 

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The facts of this subject seem to follow any of these scenerios.
a.) Dad coach, the kid is an okay player and gets preferential treatment.
b.) Dad coach, the kid is an okay player and the Dad rides her like a rented mule.
c.) Dad coach, the kid is a good player and plays where she has earned.
d.) Dad coach, the kid is a good player and Dad feels he's got to platoon her to
keep from being accused of "Daddy Ball".
I coached a long time at many different levels, and the fact is my oldest daughter was done after her Sophomore year. She and her Mother and I recognized her abilities and shortcomings. My youngest daughter, was a much better player from a young age, practiced a lot and earned every bit of where and when she played. All through those 16 years this subject has been alive and my wife, who hates this sort of stuff about sports, has told me it simply boils down to this. She would say, "Wayne, you could be 25 -0 and win every game by 10 runs, but all that matters to these parents is THEIR KID". It's simply impossible to make everybody happy. I really believe there are very very few coaches who sign up for this to simply put their daughter on a stage.

My DD played for you for I lost count on how many tournaments and its doubtful anybody anyplace could have even figured out who your DD was on the team. Not only (thankful for her) she got her looks from her mom but I never even seen lil Thunder roll her eyes at her old man. Most times you can figure out whose the coaches kid either by the coaches riding one kid harder then all the others or by the fact there is one kid who ignores, gets ****y or rolls her eyes at one coach hahaha.

 

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Great post thunder. Unfortunately your wifes wise observation applies to many parents these days regardless who the coach is the "me" mentality is far worse the last few years. You have a hard working kid who did a great job. Have to agree with uber on the looks issue though!

QUOTE=THUNDER ROAD;344782]The facts of this subject seem to follow any of these scenerios.
a.) Dad coach, the kid is an okay player and gets preferential treatment.
b.) Dad coach, the kid is an okay player and the Dad rides her like a rented mule.
c.) Dad coach, the kid is a good player and plays where she has earned.
d.) Dad coach, the kid is a good player and Dad feels he's got to platoon her to
keep from being accused of "Daddy Ball".
I coached a long time at many different levels, and the fact is my oldest daughter was done after her Sophomore year. She and her Mother and I recognized her abilities and shortcomings. My youngest daughter, was a much better player from a young age, practiced a lot and earned every bit of where and when she played. All through those 16 years this subject has been alive and my wife, who hates this sort of stuff about sports, has told me it simply boils down to this. She would say, "Wayne, you could be 25 -0 and win every game by 10 runs, but all that matters to these parents is THEIR KID". It's simply impossible to make everybody happy. I really believe there are very very few coaches who sign up for this to simply put their daughter on a stage.[/QUOTE]

 

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BS rule -- all coach's should answer legit questions. It's not a democracy but it's not communism either.

I think coaches should answer all questions that his/her players have. However I think it's a waist of time to answer parents questions. Unless the only question asked is "what does my dd have to work on to get better and end up as one of your top 9?" The parents aren't part of the team no matter how much they want to be. When it gets to the point where a parent is standing in front of a coach they obviously have a difference of opinion than the coach. No matter what a coach tells them it's not going to change their minds.

 

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research a school team? Really ?Some collages look at wheather your dd played school ball.
I wasnt talking about my dd anyway. Or as you put it the stud.
I was asking about school ball being daddy ball as I see it happening all the time.
EVEN AT THE JR HIGH LEVEL

Glad you chimed in so I can correct my phrasing.I started my reply with school daddy ball and brought in travel ball(oops)."Research" would be what I would do with "daddy ball" in travel and "acknowledgement" with school daddy ball.Knowing the school ball coach and past tendencies would make myself aware of how the school team works.Do they stay with veteran players,players of statiticians or scorekeepers or sisters of graduated kids?Knowing these facts,then we would go into it with an open mind understanding where my DD fits in.I'd have to deal with it and wait my DD's time.

Me?I got my 1st school job at my daughters arch enemy school.Best year of coaching I ever had-no "daddy ball" and my team never lost to them!

 

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that approach is fine, but a blanket refusal is not right. Maybe alot of of OFC'ers are blessed with good coach's. Thats super , be happy for it, but have a little mercy on us poor souls who have to endure stuff that isn't fair to the players and hurts the school. in both the the W/L column and our reputation. MD

I have never refused to talk to anyone about anything, and i don't have a "blanket refusal", and if i have been unfair to anyone, please come and talk to me about the situation, maybe iam missing something.
thanks coach K

 

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I have never refused to talk to anyone about anything, and i don't have a "blanket refusal", and if i have been unfair to anyone, please come and talk to me about the situation, maybe iam missing something.
thanks coach K

Thats a great attitude.Wish that all coaches were that way.Most coaches are fair and try to do whats right.It just takes a few who are not that way to make all the rest look bad .jmho